tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post2115819287637219803..comments2023-05-01T12:23:39.532+01:00Comments on Ctrl.Alt.Parent: Contented Little Whatnot...Alt Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05036984566357015903noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-12022965371488328462012-03-16T08:59:08.415+00:002012-03-16T08:59:08.415+00:00Possibly wont shock those that know me but have ne...Possibly wont shock those that know me but have never read any of her books and have managed to not break any babies yet. I dont have my family around as the Grandfolk are all of the still working and going to Monets garden for weekend breaks generation so had to do what we thought was right. I have two kids who are social bunnies who at the same time dont like to be far from me.... suits me and I havent read a book!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-5215778196431096992012-03-16T08:58:40.127+00:002012-03-16T08:58:40.127+00:00It's funny before kids when pregnant loads of ...It's funny before kids when pregnant loads of people gave me the book and said "this will be your life saver - do this and you will cope". People whose advice I really valued and people who had made this journey before me. I think I got to about page 25 before I started to get that sinking feeling before total panic and dread steps in. I remember thinking I'm no expert and quite frankly had at that time zero-experience of newborns but even I could see that such a regime would create huge pressure and stress. So I promptly ebayed the book made six quid and never bought another book in that vein again. We stumbled along in the early days demand feeding and tried to be as relaxed as possible about 'feeding routines' - every baby finds thier groove eventually. Love your blog! XxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-49446537694177416212012-03-16T08:58:08.855+00:002012-03-16T08:58:08.855+00:00Completely agree, that women's advice will sur...Completely agree, that women's advice will surely cause more harm than good xKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-22435129411778408502012-03-16T08:57:04.693+00:002012-03-16T08:57:04.693+00:00Considerably less ranty than I have been about her...Considerably less ranty than I have been about her. I honestly think these "baby experts" should not be allowed to publish these harmful books without huge disclaimers saying<br /><br />"the author of this book is not an expert, just someone giving one-sided advice in return for money"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-84949361944086212192012-03-13T09:33:53.650+00:002012-03-13T09:33:53.650+00:00I totally agree with what you're saying, I hav...I totally agree with what you're saying, I have never read any Gina Ford, nor do I intend to, unless I want to to help me formalise an informed decision about her to comment on her 'baby training' methods in opposition to her. From all I've heard about her would stay well clear. <br /><br />Like you I have been fortunate enough to be able to follow my instincts in parenting, to realise that we've been brainwashed by cultural conditioning to bring up our children in a way which is damaging to them, to their parents and to society as a whole. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your opinions about Gina Ford and your style of parenting. The Continuum Concept also deeply affected me and how I parent my son. Beware of baby trainers, is my advice. Babies do not need training, they need nurturing and listening to and responding to as unique human beings. <br /><br />For more of how I parent, have a look at;<br /><br />www.stoneageparenting.comstoneageparenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00097918270025676403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-40366986112385966852012-03-13T09:21:01.929+00:002012-03-13T09:21:01.929+00:00Ah, the Daily Wail. Horrible little rag. It's ...Ah, the Daily Wail. Horrible little rag. It's only useful function is to feed the marvellous 'Kill or Cure', which catalogues those things that either cause or cure cancer. Often both. http://kill-or-cure.heroku.com/<br /><br />To improve your life, I recommend kittenblock, a Firefox and Chrome addon which replaces any Daily Mail group page with a page showing you a picture of a kitten and a nice cup of tea. Very soothing. https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/kitten-block/Gordnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-16670010973953812902012-03-10T19:51:22.278+00:002012-03-10T19:51:22.278+00:00thank you for the link meandering mother. you are ...thank you for the link meandering mother. you are right, the instincts are there i just have to learn to trust them. so much of what we read and hear tells us otherwise i just need to shut all that clap trap out and listen and respond to my beautiful baby.friendofmeanderingmothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-45367982018385084032012-03-10T19:26:47.046+00:002012-03-10T19:26:47.046+00:00I'm going to link one of my friends up to your...I'm going to link one of my friends up to your blog, she had her first baby 2 weeks ago and sounds like she is doing brilliantly but is possibly not very confident in her own instincts (which sound pretty good to my ears). It's such a shame that so many do lack confidence in themselves and then turn to the horrors of Ford.Meandering Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139553483554627886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-28137307550298027612012-03-10T13:17:44.239+00:002012-03-10T13:17:44.239+00:00i would call this restrained. i was given a copy o...i would call this restrained. i was given a copy of one of her books and got so angry after flicking through it (even as a very new first time mum) that i couldn't even find the words to express how i was feeling. no wonder so many mums feel inadequate. unless they have groups of people to support them and nurture them through the massive upheaval that extending a family can be, they rely on this claptrap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-10491096396611417942012-03-10T11:11:19.382+00:002012-03-10T11:11:19.382+00:00Well said! Those without children always feel the ...Well said! Those without children always feel the need to dish out advice! I haven't bought any books as I thought id get paranoid about everything I wasn't doing right & lil man is doing just fine... although I did start off timing my feeds & recording everything in a little book!mummyThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06848946330225489884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-11699917721898233492012-03-10T09:10:45.813+00:002012-03-10T09:10:45.813+00:00@Smappybunny, this IS my second time around, first...@Smappybunny, this IS my second time around, first time I think it took a long time to pick up on the cues. Alt.D2 has been in a sling and co-sleeping with us from birth, so there has been a lot of time to get to know her. <br />My grandma gave Alt.D1 her first Easter Egg at 5 months... luckily, she gave it to me, and I ate it myself! :)Alt Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05036984566357015903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-40879137607037733682012-03-10T05:32:58.863+00:002012-03-10T05:32:58.863+00:00Read (some of) the book. closed the book, hid the ...Read (some of) the book. closed the book, hid the book. Realised my daughter was not a robot that needed programming!bahamamamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06176167888352068502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-2627171976759301622012-03-10T04:25:36.018+00:002012-03-10T04:25:36.018+00:00I Alt.Mum you are very lucky that you have the ins...I Alt.Mum you are very lucky that you have the instinct and inclination to pick up on these ques and are confident in your skills. Many parents find these don't come naturally. Nana Bev for instance bought my baby his first chocolate at 8 months. She's not got a clue and it doesn't come naturally.smappybunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13201679543746127420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616499998159489260.post-27514312792337357842012-03-09T22:11:15.983+00:002012-03-09T22:11:15.983+00:00I hate the 'Daily Fail' as well, but prefe...I hate the 'Daily Fail' as well, but prefer to refer to it as the 'Daily Facist'Kim Sainthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18194021021895824622noreply@blogger.com